Tips For Reducing Stress

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I may not know exactly what you are going through-



 But, after talking over
many cups of coffee with
hundreds of friends,
with thousands of different stresses,
here are my tips for reducing stress.
 




Since situations that leave you dealing with stress are so varied,
I am offering you a list of stress reducing tips that is as
both diverse and as personal as your life.

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What follows is an unsorted, massive list tips for reducing stress!!!

One thing I find frustrating about many sites is that, although many tips for reducing stress seem just right for controlling stress, they don't offer real or usable steps on how to use them! It's like watching a cooking show, but nothing in the recipe is in your cupboard. Sounds great, but is completely useless.

But, as this site matures each stress reducing tip for controlling stress will be expanded upon to provide implementable steps that are practical, encouraging, unique and fun.
 

Tips you have seen on a dozen other sites

As you look through this list of tips for reducing stress, I'm sure you will see some tips you have seen on a dozen other sites. Obviously they didn’t work for then or you wouldn't be here now, right? But, I'm hoping that I can give those old worn out tips for reducing stress a new twist that is crazy enough to fit perfectly in your chaotic stressed out life! 

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Contradictory Tips?

Some of the tips for reducing stress are contradictory like #171 and #203, but, you know as well as I that each situation differs. Often, how to deal with stress differs so greatly that the opposite action is needed from one scenario to the next.
Use the one that is comfortable for you.

Well that is just common sense!

 How often do I over-look the simple things that make a total difference, in how I am controlling stress? Too often! So, I have included those tips for reducing stress too,

Find the stress reducing tip that is the right fit for you HERE, so your life can be a living oasis of simple and lasting
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1. Use what you are already good at to reduce stress. Use those personality strengths; the things you enjoy doing and you are already successful in  to start controlling stress. Find out more HERE about your strengths and how to use them to succeed in controlling stress.

2. Know your weaknesses. This is a battle, kids, and your weakness will be targeted! Knowing your weaknesses allows you to identify where stresses will hit the hardest. You can use this tip for reducing stress by either avoiding those situations or to shore up your defenses.


3. Take the time to tame your bad habits into profitable, high functioning habits that aid in how are controlling stress. Got a bad habit or two that is the source of your stress? Do you have a habit of dealing with certain stresses badly? HERE is where you find out how to effectively change bad habits and reduce your long and short term stress load.


4. Do something you are not good at. When you conquer something your not good at, you obtain confidence, persistence, creativity and a wealth of other tools for dealing with stress. Pick something that you are not good at and tackle it. Even if it's a small thing you are building new ways for controlling stress.


5. Avoid blaming. You could be sighting in on the solution instead of hurting yourself and others through blame. Blame is definitely not on of the good tips for reducing stress! Blame immobilizes its wielder by stealing their power of action.


6. Compete with yourself not others. When you compete with yourself you constantly and consistently have something to strive for. When you set goals that involve personal improvement and are based on your individual priorities a lifetime of stresses instantly disappear. When you are not keeping up with John and Georgina Jones you can focus on what you want and work toward that instead of working toward what everyone else thinks is important.

7. Ask for help. When you ask for help it is not an admittance of failure but a step that shows you are strong enough to defeat your pride. Not only do you receive the benefits, but the giver also receive the gift of giving. In fact, just telling people what your goals, hopes and what is needed to accomplish them can be enough for someone to get excited with you and give you a helping hand.


8. Decide to do it differently. Once the decision is made, then, you can begin to take steps to support that decision. Until then the action you are making, the decision you are making, is to be indecisive.  Even this small decisions will steady your mind under minor and major stress. How to deal with stress well begins with a decision!


9. Understand your to do list. When you understand your to-do list, it becomes a tool for controlling stress. Only you understand how much time you have and what is important versus what is urgent. Your to do list will  become a stress reducing machine that works for you instead of being your adversary.

10. Have a day motto. Every day have a guiding principle to keep spirits high and your mind focused. This is a very simple tip for reducing stress that will change how you deal with stress with in hours.


11.Have a month motto.

12.Have a life motto.


13. Ask: what good thing will happen today? You are setting the groundwork for a treasure hunt when you ask yourself this question. Each event that comes along you're wondering, “Is this my good thing?". This tip for reducing stress couldn't be easier! What good thing will happen to you today?".


14. State what good thing will happen today. As you state what good thing will happen you are beginning the process for making it happen. Though it may or may not happen exactly how you expect or in the time frame you wish for. First, comes the statement, and what follows is you- doing your best to create a situation where it can happen.


15. Stress and anxiety can be an addiction- join a recovery group (“recovery spots”). Addictions are based on feelings. Have you ever seen a friend that seems to be addicted to difficult relationships or someone you know might be addicted to bad news. This addiction is based on something feeling right and wanting to feel it again and again. Often, there is a the whole progression of addiction involved in anxiety. The hunt, the work up, the fulfillment, the high, the come down the craving for the next fix.


16. Recognize people do things that annoy you not to annoy you. There is that person. You know who it is, you have one just like them in your life. They get on nerves simply by sharing the same air on the same planet you live on. There are moments to remember that they do things that are annoying, but they don’t do it to you only or especially to you. It is who they are. Do not let that be taken personally. In fact, you might be that person to someone else.


17. Don’t take yourself too seriously. How much of life is truly eternal? Not much of it. Some of it is like way you behaved- whether it was with integrity or anger. But for the most part.. lets get real down and dirty honest here, most of life is not of lasting consequence. Most of every day is not significant in the long term. Why then, take it so seriously? Taking most things as if they are of grave issue is simply one way to a miserable life and an early grave. Ask yourself, when you find yourself worked up, "In two years will this make any difference?" This tip for reducing stress is one of the most effective tips for controlling stress throughout a lifetime.


18. Look at the situation like it’s the most ridiculous thing. Keep in mind that most of life simply is laugh worthy, because it isn’t going to make a difference whether you eat Chinese out or ham and beans at home. So, when you get into a situation big or small try to get your mind around this concept. What you are going through is the most ridiculous thing that ever happened. I mean who really gets a good education, buys some over priced house, loses their job, loses their family, loses their pension, and has to start over! Hahaha poor sap. Wait! That's me. A sigh and a shake of the head coupled with a laugh at how crazy ridiculous the situation is, should be enough to dissipate enough stress so that you can focus on the solution.


19. Change your perception. Change your reality. True or False: Pain. No one likes pain. Pain hurts. Pain is bad.You might want to re-think your answer after watching a professional boxer. They see pain as a means, both in training and in the ring, to success, glory, pleasure, significance. They choose pain over and over again.

Life is all in how you see it. When you face an obstacle, I can almost bet you meet it with many negative feelings and thoughts (some of us experience this more than others). If instead, you see an obstacle with the sight of defeating it, building character, telling stories about how you killed the monster, feeling accomplished and proud- how you deal with stress will change.  

20. Remove the emotional charge from situations and memories. This is on of the most difficult tips for reducing stress to master, but if you can it will make a recognizable difference in your life! Stepping outside of a situation or memory can be almost as difficult as having those negative experiences. This may take time, but with a concerted effort, when you remove the emotional charge from your past and present you will be free, you will be free to stop acting from fear, pain, frustration and all that impedes you. You will be free to be in a moment, you will be free to enjoy life without shackles. Use this tip in how you deal with stress and life will bloom.

21. Don’t wait for your goals to be met to do what is important. When you say, "When I have more time. I will __________." or "When we have enough money _______." the truth of this reducing stress tip, is that when it is important you will do it or get it done, no matter what the circumstance is. The negative consequences multiply when you neglect what is important. When those essential and important things are fed and maintained the rest of the stress in you life takes a back seat.

22. Have a cup of tea. This tip for reducing stress is two fold. The first part is what is in your tea. There are many types of teas easily accessible as well as specialty teas which include herbal supplements to help sooth panic or stressed feelings. Many are extremely effective and do what they say they will. The second perk of having a cup of tea is the break you get as you prepare it. Never underestimate the value of a few minutes distracted from you problem. Plus you get to enjoy sipping on a wonderful, warm, soothing libation.

23. Recognize your signs of stress. Stress can creep in, in so many unexpected ways. It can take the form of stiff muscles or frazzled thinking. It can make you more sensitive, snappy or more likely to takes risk so you can self medicate with an endorphin rush. Often we recognize these things with out recognizing the stress behind it. If you recognize your signs of stress and use them as an early detection system you can take care of that stressor before it becomes an outrageous mess.

24. Recognize the nearness of death. If you had two weeks to live, or if you had one day left, how would you spend your remaining time? Would those things that stress  you out make their way into your plans. Would you continue to let things get under your skin. I doubt it. When you realize that in all honesty you beat the statistics of death every day, that death is a wrong step, slippery floor, or 5 minute drive away, the way you allow stress into your life and how you react to it drastically differs. When you keep in mind, tomorrow may be your last day, the way you are controlling stress and what stress you allow into your life gains a new perspective.

25. When you are annoyed, remember that you are annoying someone else.

26. Play a prank on someone.

27. Make up a parody song/script/poem.

28. Listen to something calming.

29. Make it someone else’s problem. You might think this is one of the meanest tips for reducing stress, but hear me out. Its all in how you read it. When I say, "Make it someone elses problem!" what I am encouraging is not the trickle down effect that misery seems to induce on its victims. Rather, I am encouraging you to, in your mind, act like it is your best friend telling you their problems. Perhaps it is your child, or your colleague telling you their problem.  The solution for someone elses problem, often, is so much easier to see. Why is this? Because when its someone elses problem we are free of the emotional charge. This is tip for reducing stress is simple and incredibly effective at helping you gain objectivity when controlling stress.

30. Role play. Sometimes our stress come from having to approach things which we react to in a fearful manner. Interviews, talking with family members, crowds, math are all very common situations that cause us to allow fear to control our actions. A simple way to deal with these kinds of stresses is to role play. You can role play in the mirror or with a supportive person. This works on more than one level. One you are preparing your mind to deal with uncomfortable situation by rehearsing words and good feelings. Another level this works on is by desensitizing you to the particular situation. When we encounter new or novel things they have a great impact, where as every day things have little or no emotional impact. Make those stressful situations less stressful by making them more routine.

As I develop this site further, I will be adding more to this list of tips for reducing stress. I will also be expanding on the how-to part of implementing these tips for reducing stress. As you begin controlling stress and your reaction to it, check beck periodically to see how you can make your favorite go to tip for reducing stress work better for you and get a little encouragement along the way.

31. Protect your heart.

32. Keep in mind what you want your reputation to be and act accordingly.

33. Have an escape route/plan B.

34. Have no expectation for reaction.

35. Fantasize BIG.

36.  Listen.

37. Don’t communicate.

38. Your life depends on it.

39. Throw ice cubes.

40. Act stupid- learn more.

41. Believe in miracles.

42. Admit humanity.

43. See life as an exercise in character not comfort.

44. Keep in sight the outcome of your actions or reactions.

45. Break it into smaller pieces.

46. Become a leader.

47. Ask yourself, ”Why do they like your job but you don’t? Why does someone else enjoy the thing that you despise? Can I find something I like about things that are distasteful?”

48. Start over.

49. Prioritize.

50. Have a no stress object.

51. Be silent.

52. Hum/whistle sing.

53. Watch a cartoon.

54. Watch favorite movie.

55. Cry.

Don' t forget to stop by the oasis homepage to find out a little more about this website as well a my personal take on the top ten tips for reducing stress. Also, at the beginning of this list of tips for reducing stress are a couple links to pages I've done to help you through changing bad habits to control stress or discovering and using your strengths for controlling stress.

56. Laugh.

57. Pick a space to be your space.

58. Pick a particular spot for a specific task.

59. Don’t worry just to worry.

60. Accept that you are only in control of you.

61. Evaluate what you cannot control. Release those things you cannot control.

62. Be uncomfortable.

63. Recognize little thoughts before they become huge thoughts.

64. What if in positives?

65. Use all the curse words you know in one sentence.

66. What can you control?

67. Move forward.

68. Embarrass yourself on purpose.

69. Watch a sunrise, sunset, or full moon.

70. Ask someone to tell you a story.

71. What will be your legacy?

72. Connect to your heritage.

73. Know what motivates you.

74. Wear comfortable shoes.

75.  Make a time budget.

76. Dance the hamster or chicken dance.

77. What is your problem? Identify what the true issue is.

78. Pick 3 reasonable reasons why someone did that stupid thing.

79. If you were them why would you do it?

80. Tape or video yourself.

81. Color a picture.

82. Make a picture of your problem.

83. Don’t think about your problem for one full day.

84. Write down ten solutions.

85. Get accountable.

86. Draw 1,000 anything’s.

87. Fold 1,000 anything’s.

88. Play a game online.

89. Play a game.

90. Make what your doing a puzzle or a game.

91. Take a walk.

92. Take a bath.

93. Get wet.

94. Drink a glass of water.

95. Delegate.

96. Work backwards.

97. Tackle the hard things first.

98. Be thankful for your problem.

99. Visit a dead person.

100. Read an inspiring book.

When you start using even one of these tips for reducing stress, your life will begin to mellow out some. Though using tips for reducing stress is like an exercise regimen. Start slow, with small steps. Don't go to fast or you might not be able to maintain the changes you are trying to achieve. But, also, make sure to slowly increase your use of these tips for reducing stress. If you stagnate controlling stress will get harder instead of you making forward progress.

121. Make stone soup.

122. Start an herb garden.

123. Try to figure out the exact color of something.

124. Visualize your heart rate slowing.

125. Visualize.

126. Hold someone’s hand or paw.

127. Talk to God.

128. Ask how you can make it good.

129. Play with toys.

130. Why are you doing this?

131. You are not the only one.

132. Celebrate your own strength.

133. Whine less.

134. Be grateful to someone.

135. Call a family member.

136. Find somewhere to volunteer.

137. Identify and communicate two things about your day- best and worst moment.

138. Have a theme song.

139. Create a tradition.

140. Have a ritual.

141. Write and conquer one small goal a day.

142. Spend three minutes a day looking at something beautiful.

143. Spend some time, each day, talking about the beauty in your day.

144. Try 90 seconds of smiling.

145. Play the, ”It could be worse” game.

146. Imagine three smells. Imagine each sense involved in experiencing those three things.

147. Deal with the root of the issue.

148. Have a not going to do it list.

149. Listen to your heart beat.

150.  Imagine three flavors. Imagine each sense involved in experiencing those three things (touching it, smelling it, how it feels in your mouth, the way it tastes etc).

So far you are about half way through the list of tips for reducing stress. Hopefully it's not stressing you out to look through them. While there are many tips for reducing stress here, don't forget the you, yes you, are the best innovator and creator of the strategies that will help you in controlling stress and your reaction to stress. Feel free to adapt these tips for reducing stress to suit your situation, thinking and circumstances. With a little creativity theses tips for reducing stress can be worked in as smoothly as oil in an engine.

151. Have an all dessert meal.

152. Give an anonymous gift.

153. Give a senior or a child a gift.

154. Make a card.

155. Be a part of something.

156. Tutor someone.

157. Take a class.

158. Start a class.

159. Be sensitive to stress.

160. Pro-actively prevent stress.

161. Know what gives you stress.

162. Move your body.

163. Make stress your enemy.

164. Don’t avoid conflict, control anger and aggression.

165. Get to know your neighbors.

166. Do something your great at.

167. There is always a choice, so you choose!

168. Wake up easy.

169. Morals outweigh prizes.

170. Success is not stuff.

171. Be busy.

172. Eat a fruit.

173. Grill it.

174. It’s all a phase.

175. Create a goal game plan.

176. Goals must be consistent with what is important to you.

Wow! Have you made it this far down the list? There are so many tips for reducing stress here that it can seem almost overwhelming.  Just pick four or five tips for reducing stress and try each one for a week. Compare how one works as opposed to another. Run your own little stress test! These tips for reducing stress should be working for you, not working against you when you are controlling stress and your reactions to it.

177. Identify what is important to you?

178. Ask yourself one question…..

179. Let people know what they mean to you.

180. Seek advice.

181. Develop routines.
Routines allow you to do more of what you want.

182. Diversify your life portfolio.

183. Have a bonding moment.

184. Don’t blame yourself.

185. Deal with solutions not problems.

186. Sleep well.

187. Keep your goals or affirmations in your pocket

188. Imitate.

189. Envy is the enemy of action.

190. Give yourself a grace period.

191. Perfection does not exist.

192. Don’t forget to think before you act.

193. Conformity kills uniqueness.

194. Are you important?

195. Most of life is trivial.

196. What is the reason for your life?

197. The best is to come.

198. Money is the easy part.

199. Take most of life as only partially true.

200. Let them be correct more often.

Some of these tips for reducing stress will make you look deeper into the way you do things and why. Do not be discouraged if some of these tips for reducing stress point your life in a new direction There tips for reducing stress will change your reality and your perception. Sometimes those changes are easy and seamless. Sometimes they make you wonder why you hadn't done something about it before. And, sometimes they are realizations like the flipping of a light switch, an AH HAH moment. I can only wish for you that through these tips for reducing stress you find out more about yourself and your reactions and you are more able to control your stress than ever before.

201. Fairness and justice are idealistic.

202. Write a letter.

203. Be bored.

204. Who are you going to thank today?

205.      Know your cycles.

206.      Wisdom is not knowledge.

207.      Be humble but not a doormat.

208.      Focus on what’s right, not what’s wrong?

209.      Enjoy your commutes.

210.      Say it now, fix it later.

211.      Read to understand not to debate.

212.      Ignore yourself.

213.      There is not such thing as entitlement.

214.      You don’t know what you don’t know.

215.      Urgent isn't always most important.

216.      It’s none of your business.

217.      Intuition compliments and punctuates logic.

218.      You don’t have to stick by your first reaction.

219.      Follow through on what you say you will do.

220.      Do a puzzle.

221.      Take the first step. Any decision will make you feel more stable.

222.      Recognize that what you spend the most time thinking about is often what is most important to you.

223.      Understand first.

224.      What do you have in common with…?

225.      Smart vs. logical.

With in these tips for reducing stress are many gems. Some of these relate to changing you thinking. Some of theses stress reducing tips have more to do with how you react. Some have to do with deciding which stressors you allow into your life. Don't forget that these tips for reducing stress are what you make of them. several of our stressors are there because we allow them to be. Whether you choose one of these tips for reducing stress to change your exterior influences or your interior perception, you will be successful if you are persistent.

226.      Convince yourself.

227.      Aim for a they win, you win situation.

228.      Develop a personal mission statement.

229.      Things take longer and have more steps than planned.

230.      If you don’t decide- someone will.

231.      Prepare for the heat of the moment decisions.

232.      Decide what you will let into your mind.

233.      Just because you can doesn't mean you should.
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234.      Being polite makes it easier to get what you want.

235.      Past actions do not determine today’s actions.

236.      Try again as soon as possible.

237.      What will the cost be to reach your goals?

238.      What are you willing or unwilling to sacrifice.

239.      Get a smaller plate.

240.      Plan once a week.

241.      Reduce your possessions and space.

242.      Do not make decisions out of fear.

243.      Choose long term rewards.

244.      Know the difference between right and easy.

245.      Procrastination robs you of too many things.

246.      Conquer one fear at a time. Break a board.

247.      Plan eight positive experiences to overcome one negative experience.

248.      Know how to make a great apology.

249.      Talk about ideas not people.

250.      No buts.

Do some of these tips for reducing stress seem like something your mother or grade school teacher would say? Perhaps you know someone who could also benefit from these tips for reducing stress? Please say thank you to those who have cared enough to pass them along to you or send this link to my homepage along to a friend, neighbor, busy mother, tired father, or wound to tight coworker. You might even consider sharing one of these tips for reducing stress with a friend and have them try to use it too so you can check back with each other and keep your motivation as you take the journey to a more healthy and stress free life!

251.      Confidence is equality, superiority is insecurity.

252.      Don’t play that game.

253.      Value the person.

254.      Separate the person from their actions.

255.      What is the spirit of the rule?

256.       Conversation or action?

257.      Let people know specifically what you want. Do you want advice or someone to
listen or something else?

258.      What are you not saying that you should?

259.      See the fragility of others.

260.      Express the feelings to an uninterested party.

261.      Evaluate if what you have been doing is working now.

262.      “I" is safe “you” is threatening.

263.      Try cooperating creatively.

264.      Skills in one aspect of life can be applied to many others.

265.      Being literal will sabotage you.

266.      You can change your feelings.

267.      Get guided.

268.      Compare yourself to normality.

269.      Let your spending habits following your priorities.

270.      Get your high naturally.

271.      Accept that hard work is the only way.

272.      Educate yourself.

273.      Present information; don’t argue your case.

274.      You don’t have to like it to reap the benefits.

275.      You concentrate 100% of the time you are awake , what you are concentrating on.

276.      Not doing what you can is the same as not being able to.

277.      Ask yourself, “What can I enjoy about right now?”

278.      Rumors are others experiences, learn from them and create your own experience.

279.      Use distraction wisely but avoid numbness.

280.      Sometimes life just stinks do what you do anyway

281.      Do not let the circumstances determine how you behave.

282.      Collect happy or funny thoughts.

283.      Spend time with a senior.

284.      Spend time interviewing someone.

285.      Cultivate love and faithfulness; they are eternal.

286.      When you are criticized, do not respond until the next day.

287.      Give yourself a time limit for experiencing negative emotions.

288.      Choose what to admire.

289.      Create peace not dissension.

290.      Keep in mind that truth comes from many sources both reliable and unreliable.

291.      If you do well, everyone around you gains.

292.      Only lend or gift if you can afford to never get it back.

293.      Enjoy the rejuvenation that generosity brings.

294.      Overlook insult.

295.      Your hard work will always bring a profit.

296.      Answer gently.

297.      Repeat after me, “It’s better to have little and be happy than have a much and lots of stress.”

298.      Let people talk. If they talk long enough they will reveal what you need to know.

299.      Have a stomach ache? Gossip can be the root of stress..

300.      If you bail someone out prepare yourself to do it again.

301.      Look at pictures of kittens, butterflies, puppies, or monkeys.

302.      Do not promise quickly.

303.      If you do what is good, you don’t have to be scared of getting caught.

304.      Encourage others often.

Tips for reducing stress only work if you work them. Do not feel that if one these tips for reducing stress doesn't work none of them will work. Keep trying new and novel ways to help temper your reactions to stress as well as learn how control stress. This is not an easy task you are embarking on. There will be times when you want to throw up your hands. Just remember that the tips for reducing stress you find here are vast and cover many different ways to approach controlling stress. What works today may not work tomorrow so come back to this list of tips for reducing stress often.

305.            Use scent to invigorate, calm or uplift your spirits.

306.            Put your stress tips, positive affirmations, or goals in your pocket for a quick reminder in stressful situations or for motivation.
307.     Try an herbal remedy     

308.      Practice your grin, smile, guffaw, giggle, laugh, heehee, wink, and half smile in the mirror.

One of the best ways of controlling stress is to have a variety of go to ways to cope with stress. I would like to take you back to the analogy of working out. Controlling stress has a very similar approach. If you go to the gym 5 days a week and do the exact same thing every day you can easily get bored and lose your motivation. Also, you are only strengthening certain parts of your body. Only having a few strong stops leaves the rest of your body vulnerable to injury, weakness or being sore as other parts of your body try to compensate.

This list of so many tips for reducing stress is made with that thought specifically in mind. I have provided a wide variety of tips for controlling stress so that you have an abundance of ideas when those major and minor stressors rear their terrible aggravating heads. When you are using these tips for reducing stress, having many of them in your arsenal gives you flexibility in how you are controlling stress and your reactions to it. These tips for reducing stress are also designed to give you a balanced approach to your anti-stress battle plan.

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